If we surrender the sovereignty of our hearts to others, they will not value it and may destroy it at any time.
I believe that everyone has hated themselves, and there are often moments when they can't believe what they have done or said.
Have you ever used "flattering language" to please someone, consciously or unconsciously?
It's not good to cater to other people's feelings!
In fact, many people make such mistakes, which is human nature.
There are many women, including myself, who are afraid of being disliked, gossiped, and looked down upon by others, so they will do whatever it takes to cater to others, to be liked, and even to ignore their own defenses.
Those who simply hope to be liked by others and pursue affirmation will find it difficult to build a defensible self-enclosure.
I have a friend who has been working in a foreign company for two years. Seeing that all her colleagues around her have been promoted, she found a training company and asked to learn management skills. After listening to her talk, the trainer first arranged a unique class: make yourself a bold woman!
The trainer told her: It is very necessary for her to build a wall in her heart first. This wall is a line of defense. Within this wall, she is safe, and she does not have to look at other people's faces, nor does she have to be afraid of offending others. Of course, this wall also has the effect of resisting gossip.
After taking this class, she began to understand:
Popularity is a good thing, but it is not necessary to be popular all the time. It is impossible for everyone to like and love everyone.
Soon, the girl's "wall" changed her situation. When she showed her tough attitude to the colleague who offended her for the first time, the other party was stunned and confused.
Since then, she has been well respected in the workplace. She just does her own thing well and no longer worries about interpersonal relationships. She also got promoted quickly due to her concentration and outstanding ability.
That is, "A wall makes a good neighbor."
It is difficult to get the same reward from others by blindly trying to please others. Therefore, it is necessary for us to defend our inner space and grasp the scale of "hard" and "soft".
If we surrender the sovereignty of our hearts to others, they will not value it and may destroy it at any time.
Therefore, please don't mind too much the likes and dislikes of others towards you.
It doesn't matter whether you praise it or belittle it. Please remember the following three principles:
1. You have the right to say "no".
2. You have the right to express your opinion.
3. You have the right to remain silent. This is a compulsory subject for each of us. From now on, we must all start to cultivate ourselves well.