There are many women, including myself, who are afraid of being disliked, gossiped, and looked down upon by others, so they will do whatever it takes to cater to others, to be liked, and even to ignore their own defenses.
Those who simply hope to be liked by others and pursue affirmation will find it difficult to build a defensible self-enclosure.
I have a friend who has been working in a foreign company for two years. Seeing that all her colleagues around her have been promoted, she found a training company and asked to learn management skills. After listening to her talk, the trainer first arranged a unique class: make yourself a bold woman!
The trainer told her: It is very necessary for her to build a wall in her heart first. This wall is a line of defense. Within this wall, she is safe, and she does not have to look at other people's faces, nor does she have to be afraid of offending others. Of course, this wall also has the effect of resisting gossip.